Dating and fear of rejection
Wherever you fall on the spectrum, try asking some guys out. The point is that you will have mustered up the courage to even ask in the first place, which will make you a pro when it comes to not caring about the outcome. It brings back memories of high school crushes and being too afraid to talk to the cute guy in your English class.The more you do this, the less of a big deal it seems. But it’s fun to have a crush, when you think about it. She’s super confident and asks guys out whenever she feels like it and seriously shakes it off when rejection inevitably happens (probably while listening to Shake It Off which is another reason you’re friends).These emotions are much stronger and more visceral than the opposing desire to gain something. You understand the irrational fear you can overcome, and the consequences of rejection are minimal to nonexistent, beyond the immediate emotional shock. The quickest and most effective way to overcome a fear of rejection and ask a girl out is simply through exposure therapy.
You are in essence rejecting yourself, before giving someone else the opportunity to.
It’s best to say something like, “I think you’re cool and we seem to be getting along. If they pushed ahead and followed their dreams against crazy obstacles, you can ask someone out or tell someone you had a great first date and want to see them again. Once you take back the power, you can get rejected anytime and it will mean nothing. Aya Tsintziras Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor.
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After that initial wave of emotion, the reality is, you are the same as if you had avoided taking the action at all. The more you prove to yourself that it is okay and life goes on without any significant pain, the less intense the fear becomes. Sometimes, for whatever reason, someone you like is just not interested in you. If someone doesn’t share the same feelings as you, it was not destined to happen. For every person who rejects you, there will be someone else who does like you.
You have value as a human being and there will be someone who appreciates it.
A fear of rejection is an irrational anxiety to the potential of being rejected.